The taste of Shabbat – Vayishlach 5777
Rav Mordechai Elon
Yaacov, after twenty years, has left Lavan and prepares meet his brother Eisav. Our parsha begins with Yaacov's instructions to the messengers he sends to his brother
כֹּ֣ה תֹֽאמְר֔וּן לַֽאדֹנִ֖י לְעֵשָׂ֑ו כֹּ֤ה אָמַר֙ עַבְדְּךָ֣ יַֽעֲקֹ֔ב עִם לָבָ֣ן גַּ֔רְתִּי וָֽאֵחַ֖ר עַד עָֽתָּה.
You will say to my master Eisav `Thus says your servant Yaacov – I have stayed with Lavan, and been delayed till now.
The expression "I have stayed with Lavan" is explained by Rashi in two ways . The first:
I have not become an important figure, just a guest. You do not have to hate me because of our father's blessing "You will be an important figure to your brother" because it hasn’t happened
In other words "staying" means being an unimportant guest. Yaacov knew that Eisav wanted to kill him because of the blessings, and so he stresses that they have not come true. Even so, Rashi adds another explanation.